So, in March I’m turning 30.
Which I guess is a milestone year for a lot of people. It’s got me thinking about a lot of things. Tonight, while I couldn’t sleep (because yet again I drank way too much Coke this late at night), I found myself pondering my singleness.
Over the course of time, my “spouse filter” has slowly dwindled to just two, bare essential requirements.
- Spiritually attractive
- Physically attractive
The list reminds me of Othello’s tagline: a minute to learn, a lifetime to master. Or in this case, easy to say, a lifetime to find. ;)
This post is really about #1 and why it’s so mission critical to me.
The main reason is I know life brings with it many trials and tribulations. Inevitably we all face challenges. In a marriage, I’m confident many of those will come from the marriage relationship itself.
What I know about a grounded, Jesus-lovin’ woman is that despite the roller coaster ups and downs, their inward life remains constant and steady.
- They are internally regulated by their faith in Jesus Christ.
- They understand the concept of dying to self and being selfless.
- They are willing to do the God thing which may not always be the easy thing.
This is the type of woman I want to be with. This is the type of woman I know will go the distance through sickness and health. Where I don’t ever have to second guess the integrity of her character or devotion to God.
A woman who will actually put more fear in Satan knowing we’re together than each of us did individually.
I guess I’ll touch on this real quickly. Even though it’s secondary to me, it’s still important. ;)
If I don’t look at you and have a strong desire to suck your face, make out on the couch and have some babies along the way then it’s just not going to work…
Just sayin’. ;)
Oh, to Answer the Question
I’m still single because while there are a lot of attractive woman in the world, spiritual attractiveness is much harder to come by. Good looks will only tempt me for a second. ;)
But surprisingly as I approach 30, I’m not worried. I don’t feel rushed. A wife of that caliber is worth waiting for.
People may say my standards are too high. I would agree. They need to be.
Marriage has always been a lifetime commitment for me. It wigs me out why some people spend more time choosing the right big screen TV than they do choosing their spouse.
This is a lifetime decision people! Take it seriously!
It’s a much bigger deal than choosing the best big screen TV. We need to put a lot more thought and prayer into it.
What are your thoughts? Am I crazy? Disagree? Let me know in the comments.